Life with 2 Babies Under 2 yrs old….

Well, I’m 3 months in to being a mom of 2 under 2. I have to say I love it. It’s so strange that until 6 years ago I never wanted to have children. This was just not something that ever interested me. I never followed the norm of wanting to be married and have children. Now, don’t mistake this as not enjoying my relationship thoroughly. I do and always have. I love my relationship, but I just never thought I needed a piece of paper (marriage license) to prove my relationship or happiness.

My grandmother really pushed for us to get married, as she felt we were already living as a married couple. So, as she was getting sick and we knew her time with us earthside was shortening….we decided to get married. We planned our first wedding in NC in just 9 days and we had a blast! So many family and friends and it was just as we wanted it. Just perfect. Our Canadaian family couln’t make it on such short notice, so we married again in October in Canada. Completely different than the NC wedding, but just as amazing. So, here’s the girl that never wanted to get married having 2 weddings to the same man. Funny isn’t it?

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Wedding in NC

 

 

 

Well, here I am again….never wanted children, now have 2. I guess I’m not the best at always knowing what’s best for me. Gotta say…. I love being married and I LOVE being a mom. To my surprise, I’d love to have 6 babies. We won’t have 6, but I seriously could. That’s how much I love being a mom. Not to say I don’t want to have 3, but that has be agreed on by both parties.

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Wedding in Ontario, Canada

Either way, I’m ecstatic to have the 2 babies I have and wouldn’t trade it for anything.

This has got me thinking. How much you can change your whole thought process on life. How life can take you in a total different direction. This is can be things that are happy or not. Sometimes we’re thrown curveballs. They can happen in an instant, so we have to be willing to change. Willing to see other ways. Willing to adjust and adapt. It may not always be what we wanted or dreamed of, but it may just be….just be what is inteded for us. Roll with the good and the bad. Not always easy, but sometimes we don’t have choice. We have to learn to grow. We have to learn to help one another. Not stay so bottled up and worried about what others think of us. Just reach a helping hand, a listening ear and help.

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My 2 under 2!

Help others. Doesn’t matter if you agree with what they think/feel. Just help. You never know what others are going through. Be patient and try to have sympath and openness. You never know what can change you and your path. 

 

Lots to Learn–Come Journey with Me! 👱‍♀️👶🐶

 

 

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Oh My! 2 Babies under 2 Years Old!

 It’s been almost a year since my last entry on here. I always want to write more often, but seems to get away from me. I write because I like to. I also like to look back at what was going on as you think you’ll remember, but you won’t. I do this blog to help others. I’ve been through some wild rides and if anything, even one word, can help someone else…I want to.

I was just looking back at what I wrote last Jan 26, 2016. I had mislead people that I was pregnant as I was talking about my first born. Little did I know at that time I was actually pregnant. In this entry I was mentioning that I was NOT pregnant, but was just feeling comfortable writing about my first pregnancy. My son was around 8 mos old at the time of that writing. Well, life is a funny thing b/c I found out about a month after  that I WAS pregnant. Probably was newly pregnant while writing that. 

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Our first born starting solids

Well, I’m here writing now with 2 wonderful babies that are 17mos apart. Baby born in May 2015 and my 2nd Oct 2016. Oddly enough we were married in those 2 months. Yes, I married the same man twice in one year. We were married in May 2013 in North Carolina (my hometown), but then married again in his hometown in Oct 2013. Wild ride!

img_1207Boy have I changed though. I went from never wanting children of my own, to having a molar pregnancy, to wanting a whole litter of children. Once I saw the positive pregnancy stick years ago (Molar pregnancy), I knew I desperately wanted to be a mom. After having my first, I knew I wanted more babies. I just didn’t know if it would be possible. WE went through A LOT to have our first. I felt so blessed to have him. Then, our 2nd was quite a surprise. We had no idea. I was terrified at first of having 2 babies under 2 years old, but was elated as well. I look forward to sharing the drama and excitement of finding out about baby #2 next week. Hope you join in to read!

 

Lots to Learn–Come Journey with Me!

How Do Our Mother’s Always Know?

I am very close to all of my family and my in-laws. There’s just something about a mother’s bond. I find it amazing. I am not a mother yet, but I was a mother to my 2 Australian Shepherds. I could tell you every time something about them changed. That’s how I knew to get them to the vet when they were getting sick. I knew something was wrong w/ them before the vets could even detect anything.

I find the same w/ my own mother. She is amazing at how intuitive she is w/ me. She knows things and notices things when I think I am hiding it very well. I didn’t even know I was pregnant when I was in NC for a visit in December, but my mom knew something was going on. She has always been this way. When I am down or have a lot going on, I don’t share my feelings. Somehow, my mom will call and just give me some positive advice. I don’t even have to tell her anything is wrong. She just knows.

A mother will go to any limit to be there for you. I have been trying to get my mom to visit me in Canada. She hasn’t yet for many of her own reasons. Well, the day she heard that I was going to need chemo (b/c of my molar pregnancy, but I ended up not needing it), she ordered her passport, got all the info done and was ready to take the next flight out. Any reasons or excuses that kept her from visiting me prior were out the window. All she knew was that she wanted to be by my side. That is true love. Don’t forget she just had a mastectomy a few months ago. This is the strength and love of a mother.

For her belated Mother’s Day gift, I got her a bracelet. I purchased the bracelet from Bluboho in Oakville made by humanity. This bracelet means a lot. See it comes as one whole bracelet and when you gift it to someone you cut it in half. Each one of you keeps half. There are all kinds of positive messages (live in unity, peace, make a difference, give back–just to name a few), but mostly it is something that we both can wear and from Greensboro, NC to Hamilton, ON, Canada, we are connected. Beautiful! Not much else needs to be said. We love each other and we both know it in our hearts. Sometimes it is nice to have that physical symbol that you can look at and know you are in unity.

Don’t forget to give your mother some of the love back that she gives you every day. We would not be here if it weren’t for our mothers. Give the connection back and open yourself. Do not ever take your mom for granted, appreciate her every day.

“Make It A Great Day–Go Inspire!”

What Excites You?

Lately, I’ve felt a little dull. You know that feeling when life is moving along at a good, steady pace, but nothing really excites you? That’s me! I have little excitements like the wonderful spring days lately, nice meals (MG made me a fantastic breakfast and an even better dinner–the orzo from my recipe tab), getting my patio equipment out, etc. But, nothing big right now. Usually there’s something…big vacation, shopping adventure, something. It has been a lot of work w/ real estate, cleaning, preparing for other things, and so on. For instance, MG worked really hard today on getting our outdoor projects ready for spring. Here he is hard at work…then, after I made him a hot, delicious coffee…all smiles. Well, sorda how he smiles. Bahahah!!!

I think it is ok to not have something big and exciting always going. I’m just not good at being ok w/ it. I usually have something. Whether it is so small as getting a package in the mail (ie. Lululemon garment) or making a big real estate deal. I’ve made a lot of deals lately, but none that just make you stop and go, “Hell Yeah! Thought I’d never get that done!”.

I am trying to get away for just a few days to NC to see my family and friends. I think this is part of my dullness lately. I need to get back home at least 2 to 3 times a year to get my refresher. I NEED my own family and friends. That doesn’t mean I don’t adore everyone here, I just desire “home” sometimes. Right now, it isn’t looking good for me to get away. Real estate is insanely busy and there would be no one here to cover for us. NC is my rejuvenation. I always fall into this lull after not getting home for a while and it is amazing my new attitude once I’m back. It is almost as good when family and friends come to Canada to visit. I was looking over some photos today longing for that part of me.

That is what got me thinking about what excites us. I like to have something out of the ordinary to look forward to. In Feb I went to Mexico and stayed at the El Dorado Casitas. Amazing, very excited! Real estate excites me, but on a different level. Get what I mean by out of the ordinary? See how big my smile is w/ my mom and best friend. Got to meet my best friend’s baby for the first time–exciting! Below is my dad and brother visiting Canada for the first time at Thanksgiving! Exciting! Even better– it was the first time that a family member has been able to stay w/ me at my very own house.

Well, I think I need to get home. Besides that I need to find something that excites me again. Maybe I need to get back in to teaching fitness classes like Pilates. I love that and haven’t taught in a while. A lot of my happiness came from my dogs and I miss that terribly. Still not ready for a new dog yet. Oh well, I will keep working on thoughts of what excites me. What excites you? I would love to read some comments from you guys that might inspire me.

See, I do enjoy the little things all the time. For instance, I was so excited that MG made 2 delicious meals, got the patio ready and so many other fantastic things. I will always feel excitement over new clothes, shoes, you name it. Even these new hanging flowers we bought today put a huge smile on my face. Nonetheless, I need some new umph, vavoom in my life. Not sure what it will be yet, but I will figure it out.

Until I do, I will keep enjoying the everything I can and appreciating what I have. I do feel lucky every day for my family (NC and Canada), friends, health, home, career and most of all my relationship. I’m not complaining about anything. I rise and shine w/ a descent sized smile on my face (not a morning person) and awaiting what each every day will hold for me. I just need that little extra that gets me out of bed quicker every day. No matter, I’m a lucky gal!

“Make It A Great Day–Go Inspire!”

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